Starting Over

What a difference a month makes. As I sit writing this, a month ago to the day I was spending my last night in a house in Manchester with my boyfriend of almost 5 years. The man who, up until only a couple of weeks prior, I’d thought was the love of my life. And maybe he was. Or at least, a love of my life. Because we were in love, once. But unfortunately, as…

The Dimmer Switch: Falling Out Of Love

Falling out of love felt like the flick of a switch, but in reality it’s more like the gradual turning down of a dimmer. Things start brightly, so brightly. Your sun is shining with such veracity that it illuminates even the gloomiest nooks and crannies of your heart and soul and suffering. It burns, gloriously, and you think to yourself that something this bright will never be dulled. But even suns die, eventually. What if…

The False First Step

  A podcast mic Domain names Social media handles Gym memberships Books, so many books The perfect top/dress/shoes/outfit What do all of the above have in common? They’re all things that I’ve bought, but not taken action on, because I thought they were what I need to become the person I’ve always wanted to be. How often do we fall into the trap of thinking – when I own this thing, when it’s in my…

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2018: The Year of ‘Action’

Whilst I’ll probably be writing down some specific things I’d like to have ticked off by the end of the year, I want to take a bit of a different approach to 2018. I’ve been familiar with the idea of a ‘word of the year’ for a while, but this video from the goddess that is Lucy Sheridan (seriously, check her out on Instagram @lucysheridan) explains the idea really well. Rather than a list of…

Reflecting On 2017

2017 was a bit of a weird one, wasn’t it? It absolutely flew by for me, most likely because I spend most of it bouncing around in my own head instead of being more present. I wrote at the end of last year about having two resolutions only for 2017. The first was to pay off my debts, including my overdraft and loans to my parents. Whilst I haven’t completely achieved this yet (and as…

Thoughts on Self Care

As I look at the food wrappers and Dr Pepper cans littered around me, running my tongue over my slightly furry teeth and trying to remember the last time I got myself a drink, I come to a stark realisation – I am terrible at taking care of myself. These days, I’m trying really fucking hard to do better, to be better, to find happiness. It’s taking me a long time, but at least I’m…

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27 Things I Want Every Woman To Know

You know in the Matrix, where Morpheus and Neo are sat on big chairs in that dingy green room with the peeling wallpaper? Morpheus puts out his hand, spreads his fingers and says “You take the blue pill, the story ends. You wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill, you stay in wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes.” Well, lately I feel…

#AskTheQuestion Week 2 – Shedding Expectations

Week 2 of Laura Jane Williams’ #AskTheQuestion was a funny one for me, and kind of knocked me out of my flow with writing responses to the questions because I felt like I quite simply didn’t have an answer. Week 2’s question was ‘Who loves you, but doesn’t get to tell you who you are?’. I’ve struggled with this because for the most part, I’ve never had huge expectations or judgements pushed on me about…

Two Resolutions Only

I know, I know – New Year’s resolutions, yawn right? But bear with me. The whole ‘new year, new you’ thing – pass the bucket – is a total chore. I am indeed a firm believer that if you want to make a change in your life, you don’t need to wait for January 1st to make it happen. But you’ve probably read that a tonne of times before too. In all honesty though, I…

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#AskTheQuestion Week 1 – MILK – Honouring Your Preferences

If you follow me on Facebook or Instagram, you may have seen that I have recently joined #AskTheQuestion, an email series ran by author, blogger, columnist and my all round writing idol Laura Jane Williams. Each week she shares a story from her life, an interview with a smart and inspiring lady, and a core question for us to ask ourselves and reflect on. You can find out more about #AskTheQuestion here, although as this…

Why It’s Okay That You Don’t Own Everything You Want …

I read an article a few weeks ago that has really stuck with me ever since. It was on a site called The Financial Diet, an incredible blog that opens up the conversation about money and career for young people, especially women. It’s so hard to find open honesty about that kind of thing, and yet it’s something so many of us are dealing with alone. Trying to manage money, progress in our career and basically…